Hi Noah,
My 3 yr old daughter is also having "rage" tantrums. Today was leaving pre-school & not being able to go back inside. School was over we had to go. She wouldnt get in her car seat, screamed, hit, kicked & totally lost control. I put her in the back seat, shut the door & just let it go on 20+ mins - total, out of control rage. I finally forced her into her car seat so we could drive home. She screamed at an ear piercing level, hit & kicked me, the seat & it got 1000x worse when she was confined to her carseat. I took her straight to her room where she immediately started saying sorry. I left her there for 10+ mins to calm down & then went into talk calmly. We hugged & talked & then in a blink of an eye, my sweet smiling daughter was herself again. It was miserable. It doesnt happen with her father or anyone else, just me. Once she calms down, my daughter knows what she did was wrong. Its hard to watch your child in a total, out of control rage. Your not alone (:

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My son is 3 and has had "rage" tantrums for the past four months. They happen daily and he completely loses control. He gets red in the face, clinches his teeth, growls and screams, kicks and hits, and can't be reasoned with or consoled. It can go on for up to two hours at times. He could "lose it" over even minor things like wearing or not wearing a shirt he wants. We have tried everything from isolation, to being stern, to even reasoning with him (although that is a ridiculous idea with a toddler). You see, we are borderline desperate. He does not have these episodes away from us. Our parents have seen it occasionally when they come over, and they seem stunned and mention how they have never seen this before (both my parents and my in-laws). Daycare has not even had a glimpse of it. Basically, we look like bad parents who don't know how to raise our child. Anyway, is this "level" of rage way above the other "rage" episodes people experience?

When do the tantrums end? Do they ever stop? My son looks at me as if he wants to see me dead one minute, then a few minutes later can be sweet as pie- sounds like the posts that I read... But if my son doesn't learn to control the rage now, I worry that he might grow up to be a "monster." He's going to be a very tall guy and if he is already able to hurt me physically, I feel like if I don't get a handle on this while he's real young, he'll just push me out of his way to get what he wants when he's older regardless of the consequences.- Any suggestions will be appreciated. He is also an only child...

I am so glad I found this! My 3 yr old daughter also has terrible tantrums when it comes to getting dressed, however it does not happen every day. Often she is fine after I have struggled to get her to put her clothes on, and is calm again, like a different child!
It's nice to know it's relatively normal for a 3 yr old.