I can say that what happens in most marriages in the world today is we try to change each other when we should change our own selfs first. We have to many expectations on our spouse's and not even seeing how we affect them in so many ways.Most of us bring up past hurts,relationships,visions,mindsets and much more.Most of us live in a deappreciation room were we see only bad things that our spouse don't do instead of living in the appreciation room and seeing the good things they do for us. It does take two when a marriage ends. When we totally take a look at one's self we may see clearly the problem may be in us not just in our spouse.Actions speak louder than words and the actions I confess have been unloving,critical,angry,resentful& disrespectful to our spouse many times. When divorce is mention in your relationship don't blame each other no more stop and look at yourself and let God fix and mend your relationship stop hating your spouse so much they are no different than you are we all came from God and we will all return to God in the end. Believe In God and PRAY, PRAY,PRAY God will never leave you or forsake you this may even be a test to see what you will do and how much you will trust in God. I am living proof God is real in my marriage,my husband left me twice and even messed up bad with someone else and I forgave him twice we all struggle we all have problems and we all need love and sometimes it takes even what we did our selfs in the past or even in our marriages that we all have sin in our lifes and need God to trust in. See I am no different than my spouse for if I am without sin in my life what gives me the right to look at the sin in my spouse's life and once I could see this I was able to look past what my spouse did or doesn't do. Every marriage is different and only God know what goes on behind close doors. Their is nothing I haven't suffered with my spouse I mean nothing and just because I have suffered so many things it has made me stronger and given me a change to see what I am doing and not judge what my spouse is doing. God will take care of your spouse don't try and fix them because remember we all have darkness within us and we all have been at one time or another where our spouse has been. We are not perfect thats why God sent his son to die on the cross for our sins because God knew we would not be able not to sin so thats why we need to ask God to forgive us our sins and ask him to come into our hearts and into our lifes. God loves everyone and he loves you. I still struggle today but I count is all joy because I know God will heal me and our marriage. Have faith Sue

Divorce is a very serious event in your life. Although for better for worst, we still have...divorce. When my husband told me he wanted a divorce, it was after we had spent an entire week together, away from the kids. Had the most fun of our lives, traveling the slopes. I thought everything was wonderful! If you ask me, he might have wanted to renew our vows, lol. Completely the opposite. We got back home after an amazing weekend and he sits me down and tells, me. He had a great time but he wants a divorce. That was the WORST feeling ever. Why was I not good enough? I stayed depressed, no shower, no combing hair, no nothing for about 3 months. My family made me get up and get out. I am now doing so much better. It's been almost a year and I can see that my life is going to be so much better without him. Don't worry, just go with the flow, things will get better as time pass. It's not YOU. Remember that. NOT YOU!! Sandy

If over 50% of marriages end in divorce why are people getting married? What is the advantage to marriage? Marriage makes everything neat. Assuming we have two people who contribute to society getting married and they in turn produce off spring who in turn contribute to society then the idlyic picture develops well, but that doesn't happen. Instead of staying in a relationship that doesn't work, we get to dissolve that agreement. I prefer and I am thankful that I can now example to my children a loving relationship, rather than, osmotically teaching them how to sustain a bad relationship. The root cause of our failing matrimonial bonds may be linked to our failed state of self knowledge, but that's another topic.