I am married to someone who does not step up to the plate and do his share of the "chore" end of parenting (ex. putting kids to bed, bath time, cleaning up after children too young to fully clean up after themselves, parent/teacher interviews, diaper changes) My husband also NEVER helps with household chores (ex. washing dishes, cleaning, laundry, cooking) UNLESS I get upset. He will not sit down with me and divise up the chores. He tells me that on my days off (I work 3 days a week on average at a stressful job) I should catch up on the work then, meaning that he feels it is ok not to do the dishes for three days and then I get to do them all on my first day off. Nevermind the fact that it is extremely aggravating to try and cook with no clean pots and pans, so leaving dishes for 3 days is really not an option. I am almost always completely burned out, so resentful of him, that I typically have nothing to say to him at the end of the day. I need some help trying to convince him to do his share of housework and parenting. Divorce is not an option because I cannot handle the thought of being without my children on a daily basis, however i cannot imagine another 16 years of this misery until my son is adult. Basically, it would help tremendously if i felt he was grateful for anything that i did, but i really think he feels it is my job to do all of the work. My husbands actions suggest that he wants a housekeeper, nanny, and person who fulfills his "physical" needs rather than a life partner. I feel so used and taken for granted. i am not sure how to move forward in my marriage and practice forgiveness because he is not remotely sorry or apparently willing to help out. What do I do?