To work or not to work: this question plaques most mothers and there is no “right” answer. Nevertheless, it is critical to beware of the advice from others. In all the advice and articles that I have read, it is not emphasized enough that every situation is completely different. I fully intended to return to my high paying and rewarding marketing position in some capacity but after being home for 3 months, I realized it did not make sense for my situation. My husband has an extremely demanding job as a physician and my baby had colic. He cried constantly. I cannot imagine someone else having the patience or love that I could give my baby at that time. Perhaps if my husband was home more, my decision may have been different. The situation is what is and no decision is ever final. I urge other mothers to make a decision based on what will bring the most harmony in the home.

I'm now a stay at home mom who works part-time as a freelance writer. With my first son, I worked full time while he was in daycare and then preschool. I have to say that working outside of home full-time was horrible. Even if my boss claimed to be 'family friendly' there was always a subtle lack of support when my sick child caused me to stay home and I never got picked for employee awards or recognition despite how hard I worked. I felt it was too hard to do both. Staying at home now is not easy. I have to structure a life that comes structured with work and preschool/daycare and I have little time. Staying discliplined to get my work done while he sleeps or while I have some coverage (hubby or babysitter) is difficult. People assume that I'm just "available" for get togethers and volunteer activities. But I'm not. So, the challenge with stay at home, I think, is staying disciplined enough to take care of yourself and not worry too much about what other people think, so that you can give the right energy levels to good parenting and family life. Set those priorities and they may not be to have a sparkling household, but a balanced life. I'm thinkikng of giving myself a "bonus" and hiring a cleaning service every now and then. I love my children and husband, and i know this is worth it. But it's not easy street. My recommendation to moms is to get support from friends and look into part-time care if you are working part-time from home as well.