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Separation Anxiety: Making It Easier for Everyone

Find tips that can help you and your toddler deal with separation anxiety.
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Posted by J. C.
August 31, 2008 7:22 PM
self injury?
Hi, my questions is what causes a person to hit herself violently when angry is there a medical condition which has this reaction? I am concerned and don't know what to do about this problem, can someone help please. I have never seem this before.
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Posted by Tay
August 29, 2008 3:30 PM
Re: Separation Anxiety: Making It Easier for Everyone
I have 4 children but I love them all da same mii baby he doesnt holla when his moma drops him off and go to work he likes to be held but if u put him down he will get use to that floor so he can be use of walking and not being held and they all did da same thing and all of them is special an that moma doll thing do not work Valente'
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Posted by katacapo
August 13, 2008 1:31 PM
in response to adding a toy into the bed to replace mommy
Buying a toy that will contain the voice of mommy and the scent of mommy sounds great.. and it probably works.. but what is so wrong with the real thing? Why are we trying to "fool" with mommy replacements, so our kids will not feel lonely, when it only takes a few minutes each day to just maybe stay with your child a bit before he falls asleep? I have a gf who says her child has nightmares and cries waking everyone up, and even her pediatrician suggests after a few kisses, close the door and give her tough love, listen to her toddler cry.. well, I think this is ridiculous. Being human, the human experience involves contact, love, affection, patience, tolerance, my god. Think of the monkey who died without affection, how blatent an example must one bring up to let people know it's OKAY to give affection to a toddler.. it's okay to hug a child to sleep.. cribs versus co-sleeping, I choose co-sleeping, unless your husband is so jealous that he absolutely cannot deal with a baby or toddler in bed. I say, kick him out instead - he may need his sleep for work anyway. Now if you're a working mom before the child is 2, and need your sleep, as they wake up frequently before 2.. cribs are useful. But staying with your baby\toddler a bit before sleeping, is not "manipulative" of the child, as my friend says.. it's HUMAN. That is generally why man and wife want to cuddle in bed and go to sleep together after sex.. they don't just say bye and sleep in dif rooms to sleep.. no one wants to sleep alone.. we are social animals. Replacement toys - are for robots.
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Posted by katacapo
August 13, 2008 1:01 PM
toddler crying when I drop him off at daycare
My toddler cries when I drop him off at daycare. It's been 6 weeks now, and he's 2 1/2 years old.. he seems to get over if after an attendant holds him for a bit after I leave.. But it really hurts.. My son and I (I separated from the dad this year) are very close; we co-sleep, and I nursed him till he was 2. Soon he will have his own bed, prob at 40 months.. he seems to fall asleep now on the carpet anyway.. and I have to bring him into the bed.. but in the morning we watch cartoons together in the bed. I like being close to my son, hugging, and talking to him as much as I can.. my mom raised us so differently - bottlefed, in cribs, and I really don't feel the closeness from her as I'd wish. We moved to latin america for a few years as a child, and I learned that closeness is a good thing, that the people there are more caring.. taking care of their elderly.. there is respect there even if not wealth. Well, long story short, he cries now when I drop him off at daycare.. he usually runs around like crazy in the park with other kids, very social, but at daycare, well he plays okay after he has cried.. I am expecting his separation anxiety to cool down, get better in a while.. in the meantime, I try to explain on the car ride over that I'll be back.. that mommmy has to work, and he should have fun playing.. I will post another mes when and if he stops crying when I drop him off..
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Posted by gopattio
August 7, 2008 4:26 PM
this worked for us
I read your article and wanted to share something that has worked for our family. We purchased a Mumoocie. This is a really unique product that can retain scent and has a voice recorder. Our child uses it to sleep with because she always wants to sleep in our bed. Now she sleeps with Mumoocie and my voice is on there telling her to sleep tight and I love her, etc. Whenever she gets scared she just pushes the button and hears my soothing words and is back to sleep. I also sprayed my perfume on it so it smells like me also. Check it out.
www.mumoocie.com It has helped us, don't know if it will for everyone but I am a believer.
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