Don't spank in my house. I have a 2 Y.O. and we don't slap, hit, pop, push, shove, or degrade. I called child protective services when I saw black marks on our son from my wife slapping him with her bare hand. That put an end to that.
You see I was raised with six siblings and mom and dad took branches off the trees and beat us until we were bleeding. The day my mom knocked me on the top of my head with a coffee cup I went outside and threw rocks at the windows and knocked all the glass out. Even after all that I still grew up to be a troubled person and was in and out of jail most of my life until I was about 35 years old. Then I got married and that help straighten me out. I quit drinking to hide my pain inside. Went to church and counseling.
So I don't agree with beating your kid to teach him right from wrong. Who ever said that worked is plain stupid.
Spanking your child is wrong. Because older generations spanked, doesn't mean it's ok to do it now. In my opinion, spanking gives the "greenlight" that hitting solves problems. Chances are - the child will grow up being abusive. Why do parents think it's okay to hit their child - one swap on the butt or ten swaps-doesn't matter-it is still wrong. A friend of mine spanks her 2 year old & GEE-she still doesn't get a clue that it isn't working. She has told me that her child just laughs at her when she spanks her-hmm-get a clue-figure out another route. Why is it we can be arrested for assault on someone - but it's OKAY TO SPANK A CHILD? I have a 6 1/2 year old son and he rarely gets into trouble. He's a good, caring child. His dad & I have taught him that talking about something he has done wrong is the way to work it out. He has sensitive feelings - so when we are upset w/him - that hurts him more than any kind of spanking could & he corrects the behavior.
Physiical (Corporal) Punishment of Children in Public Schools
29 state legislatures in our country have abolished the unacceptable practice of Physical (Corporal) Punishment of Children in Public Schools. All children deserve equal civil rights treatment which respect their human dignity in our nations public schools. When educators discipline our children at school by hitting them with wooden paddles or other weapons, they teach them the powerful lesson that violence is the way to solve problems and promote bullying. Human Rights Watch and ACLU issued a report of 8/20/08 titled "A Violent Education" to government officials with recommendations to Immediately Abolish Corporal Punishment in Public Schools, which cited U.S. Dept. of Education statistics for 2006 where public schools reported disciplining students by hitting, spanking of similar means for such minor violations as chewing gum or violating dress codes. Every parent/guardian is urged to express their wishes in writing to your child's school board and teachers if you do not want your child hit by educators at school.
I have raised 5 children. The first 3 were spanked, the last two were never spanked(now 24 and 14)because I realized that it was not the way I wanted to treat my children. Prior to that I didn't know any other way. It was how I grew up and so I thought that was just what you did. My son (age 5) was about to get a spanking for hitting his brother in the head with a book and when I called him he asked me if I would spank my friend if she did something wrong. Of course I said no, he than asked me if I loved my friend and I said I love her but not like I love you. He said then why would you hit someone you love and not someone you love just like a friend. I have never spanked any of my children since that day. I thank God everyday the I realized I didn't need to spank my children to disipline them. Time out or loss of privileges are much more effective. The two that have never been spanked are much more adept at handling controversy through talk then the 3 that were spanked, they tend to yell or want to hit. I have apoligized to the 3 I spanked and told them I am sorry that I was young and stupid. I didn't know any other way.
First let me say there are huge differences between spankings and beatings. Yes, I am a firm believer in spankings when appropriate. Of course the children grow out of spankings and hopefully they're not needed very often.
Corporal punishment works. Get over it if you think it is cruel and unusual. Stabbing a person to death is cruel and unusual particularly is the aggressor is allowed to live his life out in prison.
Check the research: schools with corporal punishment and effective/strong discipline policies are successful schools.
Sometimes a spank on the butt reminds a brain that certain behaviors are not accepted.
We would not have as much teen violence and gang membership is EVERY SCHOOL in this country had corporal punishment. This doesn't go without saying that parents need to be MORE supportive of the schools and allow for their children to be disciplined. You little angel is only an angel when you are around. Yes parents, your children are not angels, they drink, try drugs, and fight even sometimes they do this at school. So quit trying to fool educators by saying that you watch your child 24/7 and they are angelic at the least. Educators know what is what - START LISTENING!
Here is a book full of violence, killing, murder, sexual perversion, and a "God" who gives every impression of being severely bipolar, etc. And you want me to believe that it's also the best authority on physical punishment ????? You gotta be kidding me !
Alas, theosophical differences aside, spanking should be the very last resort; when all else fails, BOTTOMS UP. This works until the onset of teen years.
I've had good results with my now 18 year old, who expressed gratitude for my having explained things to him, as opposed to smacking him up, as other parents do.
Regarding the comment on Alabama: Well, it's one of the most backward places I've ever been to. I live next door in GA. It's in the heart of the "Bible Belt", so right away we can tell what we're dealing with. They have Roy Moore, baptist churches, the KKK, and redneck-talking people everywhere. Need I elaborate further ?
I know friends in Alabama, and I am very distressed to hear they still use punishment on childern. They too have rights, Bush condems China on human rights, but look what they allow in his own country. It's a disgras, growing up I was never phyisically punished, but when I did wrong I was sat down and talked to, as a person, not something to be abused. I am a Canadian, and if this went on in our schools , the public would want the teacher(s) fired, or worse. I love America and it's people (except the violent ones) but it's time to protect your next generation from violence, stand up to these people, I've did it so can you. Someone with GUTS please change it down there. Thankyou Bob
I am a mom of a 4 year old and a 2 1/2 month old. Due to my Husband having sezuires i do the spanking. I try to follow the bible's instruction. To only spank when your child is being out right defient or disobedient. This really requires a parent to listen to their children to interrpret what they did and why they did it. So i do believe that spanking is a nessesary approch to discipling your children but i do believe that it requires your own discipline and honesty. I believe when it is done in the right situaion it is extreemly effective and will bring about the best parts of your children. You see with discipline we only wish to train our children's will we don't want to brake them down or demolish them. God created them to be who that are. For me my four year old is very spirited, challenging, loud and strong willed. But i think that she is an amazing person. I try to work with her strenghts and use her weakness to support her strenghts.
I think you should spank your children cause if you dont spank your children they gonna come out all wrong when you spank your children you teaching them right from wrong teach them to fear doing the wrong thing cause if you dont spank your children one day the going to end up in jail some where and i know yall dont want that if u teach them while they young it'll most likely stick wit them their whole life also tell them to say yes sir no sir even if the children they run up on show them the kinda respect taht you want as a person
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Alas, theosophical differences aside, spanking should be the very last resort; when all else fails, BOTTOMS UP. This works until the onset of teen years.
I've had good results with my now 18 year old, who expressed gratitude for my having explained things to him, as opposed to smacking him up, as other parents do.
Regarding the comment on Alabama: Well, it's one of the most backward places I've ever been to. I live next door in GA. It's in the heart of the "Bible Belt", so right away we can tell what we're dealing with. They have Roy Moore, baptist churches, the KKK, and redneck-talking people everywhere. Need I elaborate further ?