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To Spank or Not to Spank?
Spanking is a controversial issue. Read the pros and cons of spanking.
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I am a former Marine so I understand the pride in defeating Nazi Germany but I am not sure of the relevance in this forum. I go back and forth on spanking but I have recently decided against it because to me it displays to my child that I have to resort to my physical size and strength to get a point across. Not that I do not want to, and I have spanked, but I have found in my case that it really doesn't help much. There is a great book, Screamfree Parenting, that talks a lot about this and I loved the book. That is my take.
You have the right idea?
All of the counties you listed would be speaking german today in little suburbs of Hitlerville if it was not for the United State spanking Hitlers ass during WWII. They had no problem with it then. Maybe you should move to one of those countries and be the little whinning [filtered word] that you are. Sounds to me that you are the one being sexually aroused by spanking your child's buttlocks and projecting it negatively to hide your own sick feelings. Maybe you should do some research on that thought.
Give that little snot-nose brat some ritalin, if that does not work, bust that little ass with daddy's belt. And , just maybe he won't grow up to be a loser candy-ass like his parents.
When did spanking your child become assult?, beating/violence, what the hell are you doing to your kids. You must have the most rotton kids on the block. I think you should be spanked to show you the difference between spanking and beating. What a moron you must be.
I also wanted to add to this something you might want to try:
If you have a space in your home, clear it out as much as possible and make that the space where the child does his/her time out. Make sure it's a place where the child can be seen/heard by you, but may not necessarily be aware that you are watching (some kids in my experience do best when they don't have an "audience"). If your kid isn't afraid of the dark sometimes turning off or dimming the lights helps. There does not need to be a door, if the child leaves the boundaries simply take them back as many times as you have to.
Whew, at 4 this is a lot harder to correct than say if the child was 1-2 years old. To me the fact that the violence escalates every time is a cause for concern, because of the potential to hurt one's self or others. Children throw tantrums for very reasons: difficulty controlling emotions, inability to self soothe, inability or lack of experience verbalizing frustrations, getting a reaction from adults. My best advice is to stay as calm as possible (which I know it HARD when a child is screaming for hours). You also need to sort out what the root cause of the tantrums are and adress that issue. Decide how you want to handle tantrums. I've found sometimes the traditional "time out" isn't teribly effective.
From my personal experience. I think you should avoid spanking Kids. When the urge to assault a child bubbles up in you, just take one of those time-outs that you always recommend for them. Beating aka violence, should not be used as solution to anything. Now that is one good lesson to teach kids don't you think? Kids should not be hit.
i say you should spank you kids because they need 2 know their place
why the hell spank,it just hurts you more than it does to the kid they kick & scream & it just hurts just ground your kids & stay on them about it