Its very tempting to justify the continuation of something our conscience VERY CLEARLY indicates is wrong by scapegoating "kids today". This tendency goes back almost as far as written language itself (as we have inscriptions to this effect on tablets). Are the social maladies of the day really worse than, say, burning witches at the stake, slavery, oppression of women, "colored" and "white" sections of restaurants, bathrooms, drinking fountains, etc....?

when you hit someone, it will do nothing more then strike fear and anger into whoever is getting hit. i dont care what your intentions are. things dont happen based off of your intention. they are based off of others reaction to what you just did. hitting, or some prefer, "spanking", IN NO WAY, teaches right from wrong.

the only result from hitting your child is they wont do somethings, not because they are wrong, but because they are in FEAR of getting hit again. try to defend hitting your child, but ive been abused, and i have abused. i have been on both ends and when i chose to grow up i realized that your children will grow how you raise them. stop pointing the finger at the children. "kids these days"? what about parents? arent they who children look up to? when children have responsibilities to respect their elders, where does the responsibilities of the elders come in to show the child why they should respect anyone?

right and wrong. it is all reletive to the individual, but when children get hit for doing something they arent listening to your rationalization of your violence. all they are thinking is, if im so afraid of getting hit, how can i learn respect or the difference between right and wrong?

i believe that if you tell a child why they shouldnt do something and you level with them, i dont care about your ego or dignity about being equal to a child, because by hitting a child for doing something that you dont like... obviously neither do you. think about it this way... so many "rebelious teens" has anyone thought that maybe thats just when they have nothing to really fear? they get fed up. chances are you think that its not your fault. it must be "kids these days". take responsibility.

you get fear and anger from violence. you get happiness and respect from an equal. that is not an opinion. that is fact. you dont have to see something for it to be a fact.

so lets clarify. if you hit your child, you are immature and dont know how to speak to your kid. and if you realize that you are learning from eachother as equals, then you have respect. as if you were interested in evrything your child has to say. also, im not one to judge, just a man with very little experience but got so much from everything ive been through and done.

so when you want to tell me that hitting your kids is right, what would you think if i hit you to teach you that thats wrong? hmm i bet you wouldnt like that at all. you might send me to jail. why are you any different? oh yeah, you hit a child because you cant understand how to talk to them. why cant we live by these rules, lets not hurt or kill anyone and lets not take anything away from others.

Tt has been a belief system to use spanking in discipling a child. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Parents have a command to train a child in the way it should go. When letting a child have no rules or authority to govern their life the child becomes selfish, rebellious, and unruly.
I am a firm believer in spanking a child...it breaks the pride right out of them and they learn that their behavior is not acceptable. When spanking a child they will gain respect for their own self worth in the latter years to follow. They won't demand their own way and will have great character...most of all self respect will come out of it for themselves.
We as a people have lost the most Godly commandment to take charge of what God has given us...training a child in the way it should go.
Here is one book that I advice everyone to get their hands on. It's the Good Book, The Holy Bible...Gods rules...Wake up to your destiny and learn the truth. Proverbs tells us this...
This would be found in Proverbs 23:19 read it for yourself. This was a command to teach a child about having respect for itself.
Here is another good book that trains parents on how to sheperd a childs heart. Shepherding a child's heart by Tedd Tripp
Wake up to claim what is rightfully yours, eternal life with commands from the most high God. No wonder our world is such chaos...they don't practice what the almighty God gave us...his commands. The greatest of all of these are love.
I have raised 5 children, 2 being in the mission field. I also have grandchildren and while they are here, I have rules that say, NO, you cannot do that.
Here is a question. Do you just stand by and watch them do anything that they want?
I love the authority of disciple. It says that I love them and care about their well-being.
Love is tough, so I train them with genuine love. It's a safe and peaceful place when you have this in your home...they will have the most respect in the future and the best of it is that they will know that they are truly loved.
Children are wanting the proof of love!!! They will know the haven of the commitment being given to them from their parents is real love.
Spank them, break the pride that causes them to stumble!!! They will love you for it and respect you forever!!!!

If you've ever heard the old adage..."if it ain't broke, don't fix it!"? That is unfortunately the "stand" SO many adults take when it comes to disciplining children....thus the often heard "I was spanked and I turned out o.k." comment. Did those adults EVER stop to consider what they MIGHT have "turned out like" if their parents had NOT spanked (hit) them?! Can we REALLY look at OURSELVES OBJECTIVELY to determine the impact our own childhood experiences had on us?! What part of your personality...what addiction...or compulsion...what "life choices that later turned out to be "mistakes" might be "connected" to the experience(s) your spirit had at the hands of a spanking adult? I ask you...what do you TRULY think of a ONE YEAR OLD BEING HIT BY THEIR PARENT as a way to "teach them not to hit?!!!"(from Tinytoon's blog) Hmmm...So what you're telling us is that a ONE YEAR OLD (apparently?)SHOULD HAVE the cognitive ability to "UNDERSTAND THAT HITTING SOMEONE IS WRONG?" REALLY? I ask you...from where does a ONE YEAR OLD "LEARN" the behavior of hitting in the first place?! Children are NOT born "knowing" the behavior of hitting! But, I see your point that that ONE YEAR OLD(!) is NO LONGER HITTING their PARENT! Is it "BECAUSE NOW THAT ONE YEAR OLD KNOWS(or is ABLE to understand?!) THAT HITTING IS A BAD BEHAVIOR? Hmm...I probably wouldn't hit SOMEONE THREE TO FIVE TIMES MY SIZE EITHER WHO COULD HURT ME MORE!!! This is INSANITY! When will we EVER LEARN THAT BEING A PARENT IS A PRIVELEGE?!! To ALL the "grown-ups" (I use the term loosely) out there who are spanking your children...I have a QUESTION for you! "WHEN WAS THE LAST DAY YOU (Mom, Dad, Auntie, Grandma, etc.) DID NOT MAKE A MISTAKE?!" Uhh....I bet you CANNOT REMEMBER A SINGLE ONE! (Remember there's ALWAYS someone who would from their perspective see some "choice" you made as a MISTAKE!) So...let's see...HOW OLD ARE YOU?! WHAT?! Aren't you OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW BETTER?! That one year old...or eight year old (or any age "child" for that matter) SHOULD KNOW BETTER AND NEEDS TO BE PUNISHED (Spanked)WHEN "SCREWING UP" you say! "That's HOW THEY LEARN!" ...BUT, "Grown-ups" just call it "being human" (excuses!) when we screw up..and FOR SURE ARE NOT WILLING TO "hear criticism", be made to "feel wrong" by other adults, fined by the police, etc. Another thought...If your BEST (adult)FRIEND, or husband or wife, or co-worker made a mistake (different "choice" than you would make)would you HIT THEM?! Or better yet, if circumstances were reversed and YOU MADE THE MISTAKE (as an adult), SHOULD THEY HIT YOU (sorry) "SPANK" YOU?!!! People, WAKE UP!! Children ARE NOT JUST ANOTHER ONE OF OUR "POSSESSIONS" THAT WE CAN INTERACT WITH (WITHOUT ANY THOUGHT!)AND EXPECT FOR THERE TO BE NO LONG TERM CONSEQUENCE! There are SO MANY wonderful people in the world who LONG TO HAVE CHILDREN WHO CAN'T and who would never DREAM OF HARMING A CHILD! It is SO sad that "ADULTS" are not willing to set aside their OWN SELFISH COMFORT and do the work to truly "be" loving, compassionate, supportive, RESPECTFUL role-models for (what SHOULD BE!) the most PRECIOUS PART OF THEIR LIVES...THEIR CHILD! To the "adults" who say "the fact that laws have been passed in some places against spanking resulting (I wish!) in fewer children being spanked IS the reason children are so out of control!" I WILL respond by saying...for GENERATIONS, parents have been GIVEN PERMISSION to MISTREAT THEIR CHILDREN IN THE NAME OF "GOOD PARENTING"! YOU CANNOT HOLD A PEOPLE DOWN FOREVER...THEY WILL REVOLT! FORCE CREATES RESISTANCE...AND IN SOME CASES REBELLION!! To all of you who are "attempting" to FORCE YOUR CHILDREN (by spanking, screaming and other forms of intimadation!)TO BE GOOD...LOOK OUT! They have NO CHOICE but to "TAKE BACK THEIR POWER!"...if NOT ultimately hurting you: as an adult moving as far away from you as possible!, keeping your grandchildren away from you, etc. it may unfortunatelty be HURTING THEMSELVES!(WHICH FOR A PARENT WHO TRULY LOVES THEIR CHILD THE ABSOLUTE WORSE SCENARIO!)...depression, drugs, alcohol, suicide! I worry that we as a society WILL NEVER LEARN from OUR PARENT'S...AND THEIR PARENT'S MISTAKES!!

Yes, as a child I did think wow! I wish I had not of done that! All the way in to get my spanking, and afterward. Maybe it is the difference in parents. We were never spanked for mistakes, we were spanked for deliberate breaking of rules. Before the spanking we had a talk, part of that talk was when you were ask what was the punishment for breaking that rule. I felt loved, secure and safe. There were boundaries not to cross, consequences for actions. Mistakes were dealt with as well, but not with a spanking. We broke a window, we worked, chores, blackberry picking, something, to earn money to pay for the window. That taught you to be a little more careful. Once again, I thank my parents for all the love.