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To Spank or Not to Spank?

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To Spank or not to spank

The American Academy of Pediatrics did not rear my children. I did and did a damn good job of it.
The American Academy of Pediatrics was not responsible to feed, clothe or educate my children and they all went on to college.
The American Academy of Pediatrics can bleed tears but the bottom line is children must understand from day one that this world is there for them only if they can learn to live by the rules. If the rules are wrong, learn to make changes in a lawful way.
My job as a father was to give my children lots of love and firm direction. I did that and I did spank. After I spanked I left the room and cried. It was never easy and never in anger. I never caused anything but fear gathering attention and a little pain and lots of respect.
My children brag about me today to all thriteen grandchildren and nine great grandchildren.


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Spanking

I was spanked as a child. Rarely; a reprimand was usually enough. My parents respected me and I respected them. They knew where I was and I knew where they were. I never felt even slightly abused. Usually it was "darn, they caught me".
There is a HUGE difference between spanking and beating. My father was beaten by his alcoholic father; he did not pass this on to his children.
The displays children put on in grocery stores, restaurants, airplanes, etc. are due to a lack of respect and discipline. Period. Spanking would help.


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Re: To Spank or Not to Spank?

There is a big difference between hitting a child in anger... which I believe is wrong and what my Jewish friends like to call a pacem tukis ( I dont know if I am spelling correctly as my Yiddish is wanting) but it translates to a " swat on the behind". Its purpose is to get the childs attention. It is not meant to hurt. Once you have someones attention, then a teaching moment is made availible. Parents need to keep control so they can teach the child right from wrong. By keeping control of their own emotions, the child learns by example to control their own. Violence has no place in the parent child relationship but authority, respect and control do. I hesitate to judge Kate. She has an enormous job on her hands and she is now basically alone to raise eight youngsters. Pray for her.


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Discipline

A young man, in MD, had problems at home. His mother and father were very educated and they lived a very affluent life in a very nice home. Well manicured people. They never beleived in physical punishment. Just yelling. The young man also had a sister. last year that young man killed his entire family. Case closed. That poor child. Right!


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I would like to add that the half wit that wrote that article obviously has everything backwards. Teach the kids respect, ethics and good behavior and when called for, they should know how to stand up for themselves and use force when in danger. There is nothing wrong with discipline or self discipline. Author of the article: Get real!!!!!


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Discipline

Since discipline was removed from the public school systems, because someone said it is corporal punishment, has led this country into a fearful society. Why? Children can no longer go to school and wonder if a fellow student will go on a rampage and shoot them. Why do people think the military needs discipline? Think about it. I got a swat in high school 1 time, but I know I deserved it. I never hated the principle for doing it because I knew what I did was wrong. Take discipline out of the home and you will have a society, in the future, where you can't take a peaceful walk. Other people need to stay our of other families life's. Only if a child is seriously abused, should someone interfere, but spanking is NOT corporal punishment. Corporal punishment is what that child could get if he or she went out and killed someone.


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To Spank or Not

I think the government, the medical profession and anyone who is not the parent has no business interfering in the upbringing of other people's children. Battery is a crime. Spanking is a disciplinary tool that works, has been applied in one form or another throughout history without the rest of society monitoring and judging the parenting skills of moms and dads, who, by the way, are the ones in charge and should be. If I'm not mistaken, the famous book by Dr. Spock was a miserable guideline to parents that fostered the bad behavior of an entire generation for which the doctor apologized before his death. I think people should mind their own business and lay off the sanctimony and pay attention instead to what happens in school yards all over the country as a result of no discipline in the home. Kids need boundaries from their parents! Has anyone noticed the ferocity of kids today? See bullies. What about the young adults that can't accept a poor job review without crying like babies or worse. Where did the sense of entitlement come from in our culture? What is the matter with people!!!!!?????? How about we get back to basic, common sense?


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spank or not to spank

I am a firm believe in a good old fashion spanking right on the tale-end. Spare the Rod Spoil the Child! This doesn't mean a slap in the face or a punch in the stomach. Childern need to have limits and they need to know the difference in what is right and wrong. I would have never talked back or disrespected my parents or anyone else for that matter. Just knowing that I would be punished kept me from doing that. Kids now a days know that their parents aren't going to punish them. Just watch and listen the next time you are in public. You will be amazed at the disrespectful childern. And how do we control this behavior? We buy them video games, computers and cars, rewarding them for their bad behavior.


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to spank or not to spank

I fully agree with spanking, I have yet to find a child that was spanked for the right reason turn bad.
the only time the law should have a say is when the parent is in the wrong, beating a child, there is nothing so sad as when a child is miss treated but a spanking when needed is teaching them this is what happens when they misbehave.
I believe the NO SPANKING law is the reason todays children are so troubled is the parents fault, for fear their children will hate them or they dont want to hurt them .
A parent will spank because their teaching them there is punishment for the wrong you do in this world, the Bible does say Spare the rod is wrong.


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spanking

I highly recommend spanking. As a former teacher you could tell which children had been disciplined at home and those who had not. I spanked my children and they agree with spanking.


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