One way to help an older child (5-10 yrs)bond with the new baby-to-be is to involve him or her in the pregnancy from the very beginning. One thing that can help with that is a book called, "Making Me: The Pregnancy Activity Book for My Big Brother or Sister" by Julie B. Carr. It's not specific towards stepfamilies, but will involve the sibling every day of the pregnancy and give them a great understanding of what's going on. Each day, the baby-to-be 'speaks' to the child. It describes what is happening and gives the big bro/sis a related activity to do - ex. "I am now 3 inches long - go find something in the house that is 3 inches long." Some days the activity might be coloring, or doing a math problem ("I weigh 5 pounds now. How much do you weigh? How much more do you weigh than I weigh?") or journaling ("What are your 3 favorite names for me so far?") or any number of other activities. It can be very helpful in involving the whole family in the creation of a new baby.

I have two step kids a step daughter who is 17 and a stepson who is 21, me and my husband has a one year old daughter together, stepson is cool with it but step daughet is not she stop talking to us until recently and it just very short talk,she has never met her baby sister but her brother has, what do i do to get her to come around to meet her sister.

i have a 17 year old step daughter do they have any books on that. i have seen and read stuff on kids accepting new babies but nothing on teenager and young adults i personally have given up. if a 17 cant get over it and realize she is not 5 or 10 then im not sure if i want her to meet her sister who is already a year old