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Single Mom Wants to Explain Birds and Bees to Son

Most boys in this country receive their information about sex and sexuality from their mothers, rather than their fathers.
Talking to my son about puberty....and other matters!
I am a single Mom with split/joint custody of my 12 year old boy. He has morphed into a person I barely recognize anymore. After a week and sometimes 2 with his dad (who attributes this change as "a phase" and "normal"), I see dramatic changes in his attitude and behavior. I allowed him to be on My Space, but with the condition that I would police his page at will. I did a history on my computer and found him doing searches for porn, lesbian porn, and other things I shudder to dwell upon. I went to his My Space and was equally disgusted with the language and the context of his conversations, especially with all the girls. I tried to bring the matter up gently with his dad, who just remarried last week. He was immediately defensive and wanted to have the details of my concerns over the phone. I believe that his dad uses non productive techniques and would rather punish than talk, so I said we would talk later. I know my son is growing up, but when I was faced with the opportunity to have a talk with him I froze. I need help
Birds and Bees
I feel that I would rather be the one explaining to my son/daughter than someone else. So with that said...there are lots of great books that help "break the ice." You can always use this as a starting point then talk about it together. Once you get over feeling awkward then you will feel more comfortable about talking about the basics. Lately, programs that explain sexual issues have been great even if it is on a scientific level. National Geo. etc. has a great series on life and sexuality etc.
Talking to my teen was defintely worth it...put aside the awkwardness and let your child know that you are able to talk about it. That way you will be the one they come to with a questions and not someone else.
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