There were links to retaining Kindergarten, first and fourth grades, but what happened to second and third? I am considering retaining my 8 year old daughter (DOB: 8/13/00). I am struggling with this decision because she is in the same grade as her cousin, is finally fitting in socially, but has a lot of trouble with reading and spelling. And, she's beginning to have trouble with math - her favorite subject. Her spelling and reading are the most difficult for her. We've talked about her being retained for a couple of years and it seemed to spark her into working harder for a while, but I don't want to keep talking about it any more. My sister teaches high school and her daughter is in the same grade as mine. She suggested I call a meeting to include all of the teachers who have worked with Jenny, and include the principal. My heart is really pulled in several directions. Please offer any suggestions.